A couple weeks ago, I spoke a message on sex and the effects it has on our lives in a practical stand point. Well, I want to expound on that with a scientific view. What happens in sexual intercourse that causes physiological and emotional attachments? We see this scenario all the time… A guy and a girl have sex. The girl becomes clingy and extremely attached. The guy has a commitment problem, begins to fear the clingy attitude from the girl, and starts to back off in the relationship. This worries the girl and she begins to fight even harder “not to lose him.” (By the way, studies show that girls are far more concerned with “losing the guy,” then becoming pregnant.) In the end, it’s usually the girl that is left extremely heart broken, while the guy goes around as if nothing happened. You know what I mean? It’s a classic example of sex outside of a committed marriage.But Why? Where does all this tension come from? Why can’t we all have sex and not get all attached? We’re just supposed to do what feels good right? Well, the problem is we are not made for sex like that. We are not made to have multiple partners. Here’s why from a science view. When a mother is nursing a baby, hormones are released and washed over the mother’s brain that causes emotional attachment. The mother visually sees the baby, the chemicals wash over the brain, and a deep emotional attachment is formed. The name for this hormone is called Oxytocin. Well, the same hormone is released during sexual intercourse. The woman sees her partner, her brain is washed with Oxytocin, and a deep emotional attachment is formed. Similar things happen in males too, but more so in females. This is a great thing in the context of a committed marriage, but not so much in a non-committed and unbalanced relationship. This is why I believe having sex in the bounds of marriage is the best route. It is simply how we were biologically CREATED to be.