Will’s Brain Log

      It’s true. I asked Arianne to marry me the day before Easter. We went out to the beach where my good friends, Eddie Zarick and Matt Gillespie, set up a nice canopy, a sheet with roses and candles. At first she wasn’t sure if it was for us, but when she saw the flowers she got really excited and picked them up. Then I brought her down by the water’s edge, dropped to one knee and asked her to marry me. Luckily, she said yes!         The whole time, Eddie and Matt, were filming and taking pictures. It Rocked! Check out the pics.Will

OK, so on my way to work today I was driving down Daniels and I noticed an old man walking down the road. This was noting unusual, there are a lot of old, retired people that walk around that particular area everyday. But this old man did something that I see old men do all the time. He noticed something unique but simple on the side of the road. He stopped, looked down and picked up a small little stick, then after examining closer, he stuck it in he shirt pocket. Seems simple enough, right. But why? Why did he find a small stick so intriguing that he had to keep it. 

He reminded me of a little boy.  Little boys do the same thing. The smallest things can captivate a boy’s wonder. I remember when my front and back yard were so big it seemed like an endless world of exploration. I wonder what happens to our wonder of the world or even of God? Why is it that little boys and old men have a sense of wonder that you and I often miss? When is the last time you stopped and wondered about something that intrigues you? Maybe a sunset, an animal, or the stars, or maybe it’s your friendships or the love of God. What is it that captivates your wonder?     Just wondering…Will  

We’re still praying for my friend Joe. He is still in the hospital but hopefully going to be getting released this week. He will be on dialysis every other day until his kidney kicks back in (that is what we believe and are asking God for). I went to see Joe yesterday and it amazes me how joyful and encouraging he is even though he physically feels bad. He told me about some of his encouraging remarks and interactions he’s had with doctors and nurses. He’s says to me, “Yep, I’ve just been telling them about the Lord.”

Wow, even in his sickness, he’s adding value to other people. I think that leaves even the brightest doctors wondering what Joe has in his heart that makes him so hopeful and encouraging in such a time.

God is glorified even in our trials, when we give him our lives.

Sometimes in life you get hit with an awakening circumstance that makes you value so much more. Honestly, at this moment I’m hurting. I’m hurting while carrying a heavy burden for my close friend and one of my mentors, Joe Livesay. Right now Joe is in the ICU of a hospital with cancer and kidney failure. Its hard knowing your friend is in so much pain and all you can do is watch, pray, and trust. Joe is a great man of faith and loves Jesus, but right now God has placed Joe in a difficult circumstance. Sometimes storms are in God perfect plan and I believe Joe is in a storm that God is completely trustworthy to handle. Although knowing that gives great hope, its still painful in the storm. 

A couple weeks ago, I spoke a message on sex and the effects it has on our lives in a practical stand point. Well, I want to expound on that with a scientific view. What happens in sexual intercourse that causes physiological and emotional attachments? We see this scenario all the time… A guy and a girl have sex. The girl becomes clingy and extremely attached. The guy has a commitment problem, begins to fear the clingy attitude from the girl, and starts to back off in the relationship. This worries the girl and she begins to fight even harder “not to lose him.” (By the way, studies show that girls are far more concerned with “losing the guy,” then becoming pregnant.) In the end, it’s usually the girl that is left extremely heart broken, while the guy goes around as if nothing happened. You know what I mean? It’s a classic example of sex outside of a committed marriage.But Why? Where does all this tension come from? Why can’t we all have sex and not get all attached? We’re just supposed to do what feels good right? Well, the problem is we are not made for sex like that. We are not made to have multiple partners. Here’s why from a science view. When a mother is nursing a baby, hormones are released and washed over the mother’s brain that causes emotional attachment. The mother visually sees the baby, the chemicals wash over the brain, and a deep emotional attachment is formed. The name for this hormone is called Oxytocin. Well, the same hormone is released during sexual intercourse. The woman sees her partner, her brain is washed with Oxytocin, and a deep emotional attachment is formed. Similar things happen in males too, but more so in females. This is a great thing in the context of a committed marriage, but not so much in a non-committed and unbalanced relationship. This is why I believe having sex in the bounds of marriage is the best route. It is simply how we were biologically CREATED to be.